Isn’t it Ironic?
Did you ever notice that during an unpleasant or heat up situation we find it easy to argue or fight rather than being quiet and calm even when we are not willing to indulge in anything as such, and even after knowing that arguing exhausts us all of our energy and keeping calm actually saves it and serves our purpose.
Why does it happen? Why fighting seems easy and so obvious?
Let us see if the below argument makes any sense.
It is because we have become so impatient. All of us like peace, none of us wanna enter into an unpleasant situation, we like being busy in our busy and at times not so busy worlds, and when an undesirable situation comes, we want to end it as soon as possible or suppress it mostly by raising our voice. That may not be the most peaceful or relaxing way of spending our time as desired by us in the first place, but that certainly seems to be the most efficient way with at least some short term gains if not long (although we rarely think of the long term ones in that mood where all we want is to get over with the situation and want to go back to our kinda relaxing environments). It exhausts us of all our energies and spoil our mood for next couple of hours or days may be but that’s what we generally tend to do.
It is also because looking into a matter or dealing with a bad situation in a calmer way requires directing our energies in the right direction and ‘that’ is done consciously. It requires us to be aware of ourselves, our surroundings and be conscious of our actions which certainly is a lot of work and we being the people who now have the habit of getting everything done instantly don’t wanna indulge in these long processes of actually processing the situation and then responding to it. We find it easy to react rather than process and respond. We need results quickly, if a problem arises we need instant solutions and wanna see instant effects. But what we do not realize is that there are lot of things which require time, and unfortunately we do not have the patience to give our precious time to make the things right, to mend our relations or to wait for the right things to happen to us. We just can’t.
Today in an era of internet, online shopping, online food delivery apps, we want things to arrive to our doorstep within hours or only a couple of days after we hit the final yes button on the confirmation dialogue box. And only this big our patience has become, in short, so little. We panic when things do not happen as expected, we panic when we seem to lose something or a person and we do not have the patience to make things right.
But the good news here is, knowing the root cause of it can lead us to the right path and we can actually handle a situation by keeping in mind the long term effects and by doing our part consciously.
